How do you turn gay

by Fred Penzel, PhD

This article was initially published in the Winter 2007 edition of the OCD Newsletter.

OCD, as we know, is largely about experiencing serious and unrelenting hesitation. It can generate you to uncertainty even the most basic things about yourself – even your sexual orientation. A 1998 analyze published in the Journal of Sex Research found that among a collective of 171 college students, 84% reported the occurrence of sexual intrusive thoughts (Byers, et al. 1998). In arrange to have doubts about one’s sexual identity, a sufferer need not ever have had a homo- or heterosexual experience, or any type of sexual experience at all. I have observed this symptom in young children, adolescents, and adults as successfully. Interestingly Swedo, et al., 1989, set up that approximately 4% of children with OCD experience obsessions concerned with forbidden aggressive or perverse sexual thoughts.

Although doubts about one’s hold sexual identity might seem pretty straightforward as a symptom, there are actually a number of variations. The most obvious form is where a sufferer experiences the consideration that they might be of a different sexual orientation than they formerly believed. If the su

Re: i'm a female & i'm (sexually) attracted to lgbtq+ guys

Unread postby Sam W »

Got it, so it does sound fond a big part of this simply has to perform with a certain type of guy (but not the only type of guy) you discover attractive.

When you want to be a guy in those moments, what is it, specifically, that you want? Is it to be fit to engage in certain things sexually? To have a certain role in a sexual dynamic? Something else? And when you utter this happens when you see charming gay guys in your surroundings, are those guys who you know are gay, or who look a certain way?

With fetishizing or objectifying people, that depends on whether you view these guys as individual, unique humans or more as a blank slate that you can project your desires onto. It's also sound to ponder about what's attracting you to them and how much of it might be based on stereotypes about that specific group (it might be the case that none of it is) rather than the realities of that individual person.

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How To Come Out As Queer – 6 Phases From The Experts
Contents
1. Coming Out To Yourself
2. Coming Out To Friends
3. Coming Out To Family
4. Coming Out Across Identities
5. Reconciling Sexuality and Spirituality
5. Letting People See You As Queer
6. Reclaiming Your Desires
7. Continuing to Live Openly
8. Assessing Safety and Support
9. Finding Back and Community
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1. Coming Out To Yourself
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