I love being gay
The 5 best things about being a gay man
Growing up, I spent so much time and drive trying to hide who I was because I bought into mainstream society’s beliefs about what it means to be gay.
I saw myself as less than, weak, disgusting, defective, and simply not great enough. I constantly measured myself up against linear men, and my internal belief system told me I wasn’t adequate.
After many years of working through my own shame around being gay and processing my own internalized homophobia, I began to watch the light within me. People always told me I had this flash, but I didn’t permit it to shine because shame told me to dim it.
A lot of this work came down to me accepting myself for exactly who I am, and an aspect of that was existence a gay man.
I now see being gay as a beautiful gift I have been given. The gift of being distinct and finding strength in that difference. The present of being able to pull me out of many years of suffering and redeem myself as someone who I am proud of today.
Being homosexual to me is a small part of who I am. It makes up an aspect of my self-concept, and in certain environments, it may play a larger role, but it’s just one part of who I am.
However,
I Love Being Gay
I love being lgbtq+. I love spending twenty minutes moisturizing. I love carrying my phone in my hand prefer a little coin purse. I care for poppers. I like incense. I devote drama. I cherish starting phone calls with GIRL and biiiiiiiitch. I adore songs that are just one order, like DANCE, spoken over and over again by a indicate Australian lady with cunty bangs. I love crossing my legs, tequila sunrises, and when the bartender calls me “baby.”
I love when you can narrate an animal is gay. I desire misting my plants with a spritzer. I love drizzling syrup over dessert. I love fresh flowers on a sunny windowsill. I love dead flowers in a dusty corner. I cherish the underwear section at Target. I love wigs. I love having a gold-plated Starbucks rewards card but no dentist. I treasure becoming best friends with girls in line for the bathroom at the club. I adoration making out in the street after a date. I love when my boxer briefs are longer than my shorts. I affectionate the boots with the fur. I love animal type Speedos. I treasure a waist cinched to the Gods, wet gel curls. I love dips and stunts and twirls. I like when straight people don’t know what I’m talking about.
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I was lying in bed one night watching YouTube videos when I came across a few that were strikingly similar to one another. They were all videos by gay men about things they didn't like about being gay. It seemed like an odd trend and I had some mixed feelings. On one hand, I don't necessarily appreciate the idea of highlighting the negative parts of organism gay. On the other hand, however, it's not my place to relate others how to feel about their experience.
I understand that some LGBTQ people still face oppression in America. Some LGBTQ youth still get kicked out of their homes for being who they are. You have religious indoctrination that makes some LGBTQ people reflect there's something mistaken with them. Even though same sex marriage is legal in America, some religious folk still want to reject services to male lover couples. Some businesses won't bake your wedding cake or do a floral arrangement. In places where Sharia Statute is enforced, homosexuality is a punishable offense (sometimes by death). So I understand that for many people, it's still tough creature openly gay.
But I do think there should be more of the alternative approach repres