How to tell if your friend is gay

Someone who is coming out feels close enough to you and trusts you sufficiently to be honest and risk losing you as a confidant. It can be tough to know what to say and what to do to be a supportive friend to someone who has “come out” to you. Below are some suggestions you may wish to follow.

• Express gratitude your friend for having the courage to narrate you. Choosing to explain you means that they have a great deal of respect and confidence for you.
• Don’t judge your friend. If you have strong religious or other beliefs about LGBTIQ communitites, keep them to yourself for now. There will be plenty of time in the future for you to think and talk about your beliefs in illuminated of your friend’s culture.
• Respect your friend’s confidentiality. Allow them the integrity to share what they want, when and how they want to.
• Tell your ally that you still look after about them, no matter what. Be the buddy you have always been. The main fear for people coming out is that their friends and family will reject them.
• Don’t be too serious. Sensitively worded humor may ease the tension you are both probably feeling.
• Ask questions you may have, but understand that your buddy

  What’s In the Box?

  This is part of Revenge Week, a series about how vengeance runs America, from the Colorless House to cheating spouses to that bad boss who totally deserved it.

  You know that thing where you own a crush on someone but you’re mean to them? It’s like nine-tenths of 10 Things I Hate About You. Well, I was once so in love with a fella, I mailed him my poop.

  It was 1986 and I was 16. It was a nerve-wracking period to be homosexual. All you ever heard about gayness in most steep schools were mean jokes about AIDS, so I caring of stayed in the closet at my Catholic academy. I say kind of because I was also fancy a kid in a candy store. It was an all-boys school.

  I was known to be like Animal from the Muppets there, playing pranks and acting a fool. (A lot of that was just to get my mind off having the hots for half the learner body.) But one guy especially made me weak in the knees. His name was Jason and he was what gays now name a “short king,” or “fun-sized.” He was also quite fit from creature on the wrestling team. We met in rehearsals for the spring musical.

  I tried not to swoon over him but it was all too much! He had massive brown eyes, a plump bubble butt, and Pooh

  Understanding the Situation

  Sexual orientation is a personal matter, and unless your friend explicitly tells you, you can never be 100% sure. However, if you’re wondering whether your ally might be male lover, either because you suspect they’re struggling with their individuality or you assume they might own feelings for you, it’s important to approach the topic with sensitivity and respect.

  Here are some common signs that might indicate your friend is homosexual and how to navigate the situation without making assumptions or making them uncomfortable.

  1. They Evade Talking About Their Love Life

  If your friend dodges conversations about crushes or relationships but is comfortable talking about every other aspect of their existence, it might be because they’re not ready to argue their sexual orientation.

  Examples:

  • They change the subject when someone asks about their virtual dating life.
  • They rarely note any romantic interests.
  • They seem uncomfortable when discussing relationships with the opposite gender.

  This doesn’t necessarily signify they’re gay, some people are just private, but if combined with other signs, it might be a clue.

  2. They Show a Strong Interest in LGBTQ+ Topics

  How Do I Help My Lgbtq+ Friend?

  by D’Ann Davis

  “How do I help my gay friend?”  This is a question we listento constantly in the Living Wish office, when out speaking at events, or from friends and church members from around the world.  Twenty years ago several Christians asked this question, for few knew any same gender attracted people, or if they did know them, they were ignorant to their friend’s struggles.  Today almost everyone knows of someone who identifies as queer or deals with a measure of same gender attractions.  Even if a Christian finds himself in a season of experience where he does not personally know of a same gender attracted (SGA) person in his sphere of influence, this scrutinize is of utmost importance in light of the change of our culture and the growing willingness of Christians dealing with SGA to openly talk about their issues.  So how does one help a gay-identified ally or SGA friend?

  The first response I typically give to this question is actually another question.  “Does your friend know Jesus?”  This is a vital first question any believer must tackle before attempting to help a friend deal with her sexual attractions.  This is because there are two different ro