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You may have heard of throuple relationships. You may be considering being in one. You may hold concerns that throuples are more complex than couple relationships, and that perhaps the subject is taboo; you have no-one to talk with about this. Let me assure you that throuples are a legitimate form of connection expression; as legitimate as are couples or polyamorous groups, and there are more around than you might think.
But being fresh to the concept of throuples (or you may already be experienced but are having some connection struggles), you might detect some relationship-relief by receiving some inspiring ideas on how throuples manage they’re relationship happiness more effectively.
How do throuples make a success of their engagement together?
What is a Throuple Relationship?
A throuple relationship consists of three people who have agreed to be in a consensual, dedicated, romantic (usually intimate, but not always sexual) association. This is a long-term arrangement, as opposed to a casual sex-based arrangement (such as a “threesome”), and it differs from a polyamorous “unicorn” arrangement (where an established couple Unread postby Latha » Hello Xiaoge!Two gay guys recent to this.
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Has it always been just an every 6 weeks thing?
I can see why you'd be worried about whether you are really special to them, or really unique, if they are constantly banging other guys. It sounds like you're polyamorous, but maybe they don't ID that way.
Were they IDing as a monogamous couple who just has casual sex with others, until you came along and seemingly all fell in love?
Remember, love takes time to expand. Generally, the first year or two with someone we are infatuated. In poly circles this is known as new relationship fire. Love needs moment. It requires going through hardships with each other, and showing up to support each other.
Then, there's this principle of the association escalator. You all have to opt which floor you want to move to and receive off at. Just dating and having sex? Moving to be nearer each other? Meeting each other's family and friends (not just their play partners for sex romps)? Moving in together?
Also, you're saying you like the thought of loving them "as a couple." What if you lose interest in Re: How to find balance in Throuple romantic relationships
You're right, it can be really strenuous to imagine how a modern relationship might work if you don't have any examples - this is a common issue for people who are recent to polyamory. Thankfully, the skills you need to manage a polyamorous relationship are not all that different from the ones you need for monogamous relationships or friendships. As you suggested, communication is very important - you also need to possess a good sense of your own feelings and needs, as well as flexibility so you can accommodate those of your partners.
There are so many things you can argue with your partners, like your desire for an equal and balanced relationship, and the evidence that you are not sure how to navigate this recent relationship structure. Let's consider your question about sex and dating: should the three of you date and have sex separately? Start by asking yourself what you want in this situation. Would you want to meet or have sex with one of your partners if the other isn't around? Then, inquire your partners how they touch about this question.
On that note, I want to clarify something. Yo