Ever wanted to understand the secrets to becoming a control bottom? Want to know how to look after the bottoms in your life? Curious to give bottoming a try but not sure how to begin?
We can assist you become a better bottom! Here are some speedy bottoming tips and tricks from ACON’s peer-workshop Booty Basics.
1. Lube
The arse does not produce its own lubrication.
This means that lube is really, really significant for any anal play. First, to stop damage to the internal lining of your arse. Second, to build bottoming (and topping!) more pleasurable. And third, to assist protect it from infections.
Remember to utilize water or silicon-based lubes, as oil-based lubes can wreck condoms.
2. You
The second principle is YOU. This is the one that covers off all the mental and heartfelt aspects such as making sure you feel safe, making sure there is consent, that you feel comfortable, that you know your own bottoming limits and desires.
Remember, sex is best for everyone if all the people deeply interested are motivated by trying to maximise everyone’s pleasure safely. You can’t be a good boyfriend and you can’t experience pleasure for yourself if you’re stressed or uncomfortable (bottom or not!).
3. R
Understanding Anal Health
Anal sex is a very common practice among same-sex attracted, bisexual, and queer men. Knowing the risks and how to enjoy safer anal sex is vital to a healthy sex life.
The fact is, a lot goes on down there. Many conditions can impact your anal health aside from HIV, gonorrhea, chlamydia, and syphilis. Clinics enjoy Red Door in Minneapolis and Clinic 555 in St. Paul are helpful and gay-friendly. Waiting to see if symptoms disappear may only prolong an unpleasant condition or give you a false sense of confidence that you don’t have a sexually transmitted infection (STI) when, in fact, you do.
Good prevention doesn’t just mean avoiding health problems — it also means dealing with those problems quickly. If your rear end is troubling you, swallow that shyness and make an appointment to look a doctor. Your anus will thank you.
Aside from HIV and STIs, what can disturb an otherwise happy and healthy butt? Here is a quick roll call of health conditions that can occur.
Anal Itch
Known formerly as anal pruritus, it means the skin around your anus itches. The degree can range from an occasional itch to grave itching that causes you to scratch your skin until it bleeds.
From the author's note on this article, a first hand account of the realities of anal sex.
Anal sex is always painful the first few times; as the passive companion, you are inevitably tense, nervous, and anxious. Yet, in the gay male community, this becomes all a part of the initiation ceremony; a rite into manhood usually performed by an older and more experienced male.
Blood typically accompanies this practice; heightening the pseudo-occultist experience of blood-brotherhood; also, hence the extremely high rates of continuing HIV infections among gay males. As one physician explained: “Physiologically, the anus is not planned for penetration by any hard object. As a protective reflex action, the anal sphincter tightens ordinarily if stimulated. Any endeavor at penile insertion can be distressing, even if done slowly and gradually.
The lining [mucus membrane] of the rectum is very thin, tears easily, does not heal fast and therefore is vulnerable to infections. Also, the tears can enlarge to a fissure or a crack. These are painful and slow to heal.
Looking after your assets: everything you need to understand about maintaining a happy, healthy ass
By Emen8, updated 11 months ago in Sex and virtual dating / Sex
Anal sex. It’s probably not a deeply explored topic in the standard birds-and-bees chat.
But just like the rest of your sexy bits, your anus offers a whole wonderful planet to explore, and the mechanics are just the inception. Bottoming can be one of the most intense, intimate, vulnerable and mind-blowing things you can do with another guy. Or it can be average, uncomfortable, embarrassing and very unsatisfying.
The difference can be as simple as arming yourself with the right information — and, as always, we’ve got your back(side). Read on for the sizzling take on maintaining a happy, fit ass, and how to use it for the top sex of your life.
1. Get to know the basic anatomy
As you can see from the handy diagram, this area involves several special muscles and sphincters. It sits right behind your prostate and the rest of your sex anatomy, which is why it feels so nice when your buddy is inside you. It’s also lined internally with mucosa (a moist, protective membrane) and is very rich in blood vessels